I was sitting down with my husband last night, listening to him play his guitar. All I could think about is how I used to watch him play almost ten years ago. I was only two years out of high school and barely knew what I was doing in life, but one thing I did know was how much I was starting to love this man of mine.
The last ten years has been a whirlwind for my husband and I. We were both so young when we got married and now we have three boys, we’ve moved half a dozen times across the US, and the grey hairs have begun.
I remind my kids every day that every grey hair on my head is because of them. They just laugh and go back to their wild antics.
It’s interesting to look back at the two kids we were when we got together. We had no idea about all the experiences life would throw our way.
If there’s one lesson we’ve learned through it all, it would definitely be how important it is to be a team.
We’re a team. My husband and I are an unbreakable team.
Sure, there are days we don’t always like each other all that well, but I love him with all of my heart. We’ve gotten each other through some tough times, health scares with the kids, and uprooted our family a few times.
Not to mention walking through uncharted territory when it comes to blending cultures in our little family. There have been so many times where we find ourselves at odds on what’s expected of us from a new culture, how to blend cultures into a new unique culture, and how to step out of our comfort zones to try new things.
I’ll be the first to say that it’s hard.
Life is hard.
Interracial marriages are hard and require a lot of work.
However, I would never dream up a different life for myself. I love my husband, his culture, the culture we have cultivated for our own family, and every piece of our unconventional life.
The way we get through it is by standing by each other through it all. When we go into uncharted territories, I know my husband is there by my side to help me navigate the waters. I can lean on him and he can lean on me.
Before anything else, we’re a team.
Being a strong team helps guide us in our decisions every day.
When we are trying to figure out what to do, we look to see what’s best for us as a family first and ask ourselves very specific questions. Is this going to help us grow as a family? Is this healthy for our family?
As an interracial couple, we often find ourselves looking for any guidance on what to do. There are countless decisions to make every day for our relationship and families. By asking these questions before you take on step forward, it helps you know what to do or at least what direction you should start going in.
Being A Team Builds A Strong Foundation.
Relationships need to sit on a firm foundation so you can face any storm that comes your way. You need to know you can trust each other and depend on each other throughout it all.
Interracial couples constantly walk into new and maybe even uncomfortable situations. You can even start to feel like an outsider when stepping into your partner’s culture. If you walk into those moments as a team, you instantly feel more at ease. You know your partner is there to walk you through it and to help you figure it all out.
My challenge to all of you is find out how you and your partner can be a better team this year.
What can you do to make sure you are there for them throughout every situation and experience. Open up and tell them how they can be there for you. Then take the leap together and step out of your comfort zones.