Mistakes Interracial Couples Are Making
There are a lot of things interracial couples have to do. They’re constantly trying to figure out how to blend everything from taste preferences to family traditions. However, they’re also doing a few things wrong.
Trying To Figure Everything Out On Their Own.
We’ve all heard the saying, “Relationships require open lines of communication.” However, it’s one thing most relationships lack. Over time, you start to talk less and either assume your partner knows what you’re thinking or figure it’s easier to do it all on your own.
I’m definitely one that likes to do things on my own. I grew up with an independent single mom and my first instinct is to take care of myself. I’ve had to really learn over the years, to depend on and communicate with my husband.
Communication is vital in interracial relationships. They have all the same things that typical couples have to face as well as all the challenges that come with blending cultures and expectations. It’s important for them both to talk about how they feel along the way and to check in with each other frequently.
Assuming Expectations Are Universal.
Anyone in an interracial relationship will tell you just how different expectations are in different cultures. While you may think you’re being hospitable and gracious, you in-law may think you’re actually being rude and offensive.
You may get lucky and have some expectations that are universal, but for the most part, they’re not. Interracial couples have to talk about what’s expected of each other in different situations. It’s up to both of them to decide if they’ll follow the expectations, in the end, but understanding what they are is key.
Getting Caught Up In The Drama.
It’s easy to get caught up in the stress of blending cultures and trying to follow the expectations that have been placed on your shoulders. You start to forget why you fell for each other, to begin with, because your relationship becomes all about stress.
You have to find a way to separate it all. You fell for your partner because you loved them. If you can stand strong as a couple, you can face the rest of it together. Even though it can be overwhelming at times, think of it as something to help you get closer together.
Forgetting What Culture Really Means.
Somehow the term “culture” has been mistranslated by many interracial couples. They assume one of them has more culture than the other because their partner grew up in India or some other part of the world. Then their relationship becomes all about blending their culture into the relationship rather than blending both cultures into their family.
Culture is a person’s beliefs, how they were raised based on where the lived or their ethnic background, their ideas, and how they behave.
We all have a unique culture that sets us apart from everyone else. Interracial couples have to remember to blend both cultures into their family.
Interracial couples face a lot. It may be in the form of discrimination, stereotypical jokes, stress, or crazy comments from ignorant people. At the end of the day, they all have a choice. They can let it make them bitter or they can just laugh.
Sometimes laughter is the best medicine.
You can’t control how other people are, but you can control your own response. Don’t let other people come in make you feel like your relationship is a burden or stress you out.
Instead, just laugh. Laugh because you knew you are completely in love with your partner and that is all that matters.